Sadness: Video Of Mother Hand-Feeding 13-Year Old Son At Internet Cafe As He Games For Days Straight

February 27, 2019

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This is a video of 37-year old mother Lilybeth Marvel going to hand-feed her son Carlito breakfast at an internet cafe in Nueva Ecija, the Philippines, as he plays his favorite battle royale style video game, Rules Of Survival, which, at this point, he's been playing for over 48 hours straight. Some more info while I wonder why his mother didn't teach him the REAL first rule of survival: if you don't stop playing video games long enough to eat, you're going to starve to death:

After the footage went viral, the mother took to the internet to explain that she and her husband had tried a rough approach at first, by banning Carlito from going to the internet cafe. That didn't work out as well as they had hoped, as the 13-year-old always found ways to sneak out, so now they're trying to do things differently.


"I used to just nag about his online games. But that didn't work. So I'm trying a different approach," the woman said. "I try to make him feel that whatever is happening in his life, I am his mother who loves him and takes care of him."

The two desperate parents have pulled Carlito out of school, because he had started skipping classes to play video games. They are trying to focus on managing his addiction, but admit that it is very difficult and have pleaded online for help.

Well that was a whole family-sized microwavable dinner of depressing. So what is the answer here? Like, what will actually work? I know you're used to me having all the answers on account of my keen intellect and devilish good looks, but I'm actually at a loss here. "Call Ralph, demand he breaks the internet again." *mind is blown, reforms like a star being born, is blown again* My God you're good.

Keep going for the video.

Thanks to Joseph A, who agrees breaking free from any addiction is a battle.

  • davegrille

    This is sick!

  • lushkneebumbuild

    maybe this "helping" is actually a stealth punishment, trying to humiliate him into being less of a slug

  • lushkneebumbuild

    what game?

  • lushkneebumbuild

    i don't see the problem. nobody complains when some inner city parent pushes their kid into football or basketball in america.
    gotta train up for when korea gets their turn to pick an olympic sport and chooses computer gaming. this is literally her son's only chance to succeed at life in any form
    (i know they're not korean, but how else can you possibly catch up?)

  • GeneralDisorder

    This dude is not nearly embarrassed enough by this. If my mom tried to hand feed me when I was that age I would have gotten my ass kicked. By my mom first then by everyone else who found out about it.

  • Mysterio Don Lefluerflin

    WTF game is he playing. Also, lets be real, that family would be better off without that kid.

  • Bling Nye

    If he's gold farming, he might be a source of income for the family. I don't know if that's the case here, but just sayin'. https://en.wikipedia.org/wi...

  • Kaizer Chief

    LOL at them and their "rough approach". This is the generation of parents who are taught not to even say the word "no" to their children, cos it will damage them somehow.

  • jimmycleaver

    I guess the old-fashioned belt isn't acceptable anymore to this new generation of parents. I might of been obsessed with video games at a young age and always dream of spending my life-time on playing nothing but games, but I can now see why there are restrictions for playing games for a limited-time, and these parents aren't being stern enough to their child.

  • Bling Nye

    Being a stern parent has fuckall to do with using a belt to hit a child. Hitting a child is just lazy, terrible parenting. Clear boundaries with consistent enforcement of reasonable penalties is far more effective parenting than hitting a kid.

  • MoonshineGFT

    Sure, try enforcing "reasonable" penalties to a generation of children who'll just refuse to abide, because "What are you going to do if I don't?"

    Delinquent children always find a way around you, and they know full well they've got nothing to fear, because one call to child services will put a swift end to your threats.

    The point is, fear = respect, and kids often get this way because they do not respect their parents, because they never feared them.

    Smacking your kids around whenever they disobey is just plain abuse, but having the belt as an ultimatum is responsible parenting.

  • Bling Nye

    Fuckin' noooope.

    If you parent based on fear, you're a lazy, shit ignorant parent. And fuck you for making a child fear their parent. Parents are the people children look to for help removing their fears.

    Using a belt is bullshit. If you can't parent a kid without resorting to hitting them you're a fucking failure.

    A relationship based on fear is the worst thing possible. Fear doesn't equal respect, it's naive as fuck to think it does. Respect is earned, you can't beat it into someone.

    Clear, consistent parenting with clear limits, consistent appropriate consequences and active parenting are extremely effective, with far better results than using fear and belts.

  • shigzeo

    Looks like someone got hit too much when they was a kid. Shit ignorant asshat running straight to wordy-mouth mean character attacks first, 'peaceful parenting' second.

    Cool beans.

  • Bling Nye

    No, actually I just am a parent that cares...and the thought of an adult striking fear, literally, into any child makes me incredibly fucking angry.

    And yes, I have strong feelings and opinions about those "parents" that hit their kids.

    And I take an especially dim view of people that not only think it's ok but advocate for hitting kids; violence is not the answer for dealing with children.

    I could've been better with my response, true. Thanks for the reminder. I'll try harder next time.

    Cheers.

  • jimmycleaver

    "I could've been better with my response, true. Thanks for the reminder. I'll try harder next time."

    Same goes for my OP that started this whole mess in the first place. There's always a limit on knowing when it's ever the right decision to spank a child if they refuse to show any obedience to their parents. I never like to think of spanking a child's butt consider as hitting, nor do I tolerate parents doing it very frequent that may leave them scarred and effect their mentality as they're growing up. When it was physically given to me, they will use it more as a last resort if restricting my fun time or giving me a serious talk isn't enough.

    I don't have any children of my own and currently single, but witnessing how my older brother treats his own kids like ragdolls from their early years, gives me some ideas on how it could of been done better.

    And as for the young teen on the video, the amount of red flags I've seen in it only keeps me motivated on how to treat my future children differently, for the better and to be the good father I can possibly give for them.

    I wanted to give my final thoughts on this subject due to the rather aggressive replies I've been reading while keeping it neutral as possible.

  • Bling Nye

    Fair enough.

    Giving your child love, affection, attention, consistent boundaries and consistent appropriate consequences for their actions are much, much better than hitting a child. Not only is behavior better, it results in a much better relationship between the parent and child, especially over time.

    People obsess about "obedience" when it's so much better to instill "cooperation"... for example, doing chores: a parent hits their kid because they won't do their chores, they say do it because I say so, etc., and it just makes the kid refuse even more, until they're beaten enough and they do it begrudgingly and with resentment. Versus the parent using compassion and calm attention that explains why we do things to help around the house, how much nicer it is to not step on toys, and if we don't clean up, there will be consequences such as loss of privileges like screen time, toys being taken away, etc.. Patience, understanding, and consistency are important.

    My experience as a parent tells me it works, in addition to the myriad of studies and decades of research conducted by specialists. I have never hit my child, I have never even threatened to hit or use any kind of physical punishment, and while we do have times where they refuse to do what they're told, it is often short lived and it still gets done. They've learned I am consistent in my expectations of them, and that I am consistent in delivering consequences for their behavior. They don't fear me and are secure with me so they feel comfortable with me. I respect them as a person, and subsequently they respect me and my expectations of them. They are given body autonomy, aren't forced to hug anyone and if we're playing/wrestling/tickling, and they say "stop" we stop. We also roll model expected behavior in how we treat others.

    A kid's reaction to making a mistake shouldn't be "my parents are going to kill me" it should be "I need to talk to my parents about this"... all hitting them does is teach them to avoid their parents, and later in life their relationship with their parents will likely be at arms distance, if there's a relationship at all.

    Hitting a kid is lazy, short-term, counter-productive, and just plain stupid in the face of all the evidence against it in my opinion.

    So yeah, being a parent it does make me feel really strongly about how kids are treated and I absolutely detest the attitude that it's not only "ok" to hit kids, but that it's somehow "necessary".

    I appreciate your follow up comment, and I hope I've been more civil this time in my reply. Thanks.

    Cheers.

  • MoonshineGFT

    As a matter of fact, I am a parent, so a congenial "fuck you" to you too!

    Clearly you misunderstand what is meant by "fear" as it pertains to "respect". You respect a police officer in the same way you fear breaking the law & suffering the consequences. That doesn't mean we're ruled by a society of fear, genius.

    I am also a teacher, and have worked with kids for 7 years. Obviously, discipline is not dolled out the same as at home, but the trick to keeping them in line is to ensure they fear the consequence of crossing the teacher one too many times.
    Funny how both students and parents alike continually express how much they enjoy my classes. I must be lazy, shit ignorant, eh? I don't beat my students, but you can be damned sure they fear me.

    I, for one, have never used a belt. A swift pat to the backside is enough for my kids. My father did however, and I don't hold it against him. I have a solid respect for my father, and when I was a little ass and nothing else worked, he did what he had to. I love him no less, and thank him for doing it.

    I can count on one hand the times I've actually needed to spank my kids. Thats usually all you need, then you never need to go there again. Just the threat of it, when an ultimatum is needed, will prevent a child from pushing limits. The rest of my parenting is done by the very same wisdom you mentioned. Consistency and active parenting.

    For your information, dickweed, my kids both love me and fear me, and our family is as happy and healthy as any other. And, not to toot my own horn or anything, but friends and other families have told us that our kids are very well-behaved, and that they envy our parenting. So go eat a dick.

    For you to insinuate that my methods don't produce effective results, or that they make me a lazy or naive parent just goes to show your own ignorance.

  • Acolyyte

    You're a lazy shithead who is too lazy to actually understand child psychology. Time and again it's been proven that hitting your children is damaging to their relationship with you and makes them into sneaky little fucks.

    But god forbid you actually have to put effort into parenting. Spanking is the moron's way out. "I DON'T LIKE A THING YOU DID! I HIT YOU!" You fucking ape. Do some research. Actually try empathy. I have two daughters that have grown up to be successful and incredible young women. Due to the fact that my wife and I never threatened and instituted natural consequences instead of abstract punishment, they feel safe coming to my wife or I when it truly matters. Sure they still fuck up but that's just human.

    The point is, you're a terrible role model, and a borderline horrible human. Using force against a child isn't good parenting. It's a self indulgent display of power. You're teaching the kid "I'm bigger than you, when you do something i don't like, I hit you."

    Being a teacher doesn't make you a good parent. And from the sound of it, you're more concerned with being the power figure at home than raising functional, independent people.

  • Bling Nye

    Clearly you misunderstand what is meant by "fear" as it pertains to "respect". You respect a police officer in the same way you fear breaking the law & suffering the consequences. That doesn't mean we're ruled by a society of fear, genius.

    I didn't mistake anything, you don't know what they actually are if you can't differentiate them, or understand that they don't co-exist. Fear does not equal respect. Respect isn't beaten into someone, it's earned.


    I am also a teacher, and have worked with kids for 7 years. Obviously, discipline is not dolled out the same as at home, but the trick to keeping them in line is to ensure they fear the consequence of crossing the teacher one too many times.
    Funny how both students and parents alike continually express how much they enjoy my classes. I must be lazy, shit ignorant, eh? I don't beat my students, but you can be damned sure they fear me.


    Enjoying the class material can be entirely independent of the instructor, and I'm sure I'm not the only one that's had an experience with "yeah, loved that class, but the teacher was a fucking prick". And of course the opposite, loved the teacher but hated the class. They enjoy your class but what about you? Is it all of them, every year? Half? 3-4 out of 30+? I'm sure you think you're great, we all think we're great, but be honest. "...you can be damned sure they fear me." Fucking egotistical much? If that's they case, they sure as shit don't fucking respect you champ. Guaranteed.


    I, for one, have never used a belt. A swift pat to the backside is enough for my kids. My father did however, and I don't hold it against him. I have a solid respect for my father, and when I was a little ass and nothing else worked, he did what he had to. I love him no less, and thank him for doing it.

    Turns out, people that were hit as kids, aren't as ok as they think they are. Legit research and everything. But whether you explore that is up to you.


    I can count on one hand the times I've actually needed to spank my kids. Thats usually all you need, then you never need to go there again. Just the threat of it, when an ultimatum is needed, will prevent a child from pushing limits. The rest of my parenting is done by the very same wisdom you mentioned. Consistency and active parenting.


    Consistency and active parenting, agreed. Turns out though, all you need is the appropriate leverage with the punishment and it can be more effective than hitting a child. Being lazy is jumping to the hitting instead of taking a moment to assess and fitting an appropriate non-physical punishment. Kids are smart and actually understand a lot. No need to hit them. Ever.


    For your information, dickweed, my kids both love me and fear me, and our family is as happy and healthy as any other. And, not to toot my own horn or anything, but friends and other families have told us that our kids are very well-behaved, and that they envy our parenting. So go eat a dick.

    That's your perception of it, full of your own bias. And "as happy and healthy as any other" is hilarious, maybe just to me, since "any other" includes a bunch of fucked up ones, including the ones that appear happy and healthy but aren't.

    You don't know much but are convinced you know enough and what you know is right. I'm not sure why I'm wasting my time replying to you now, it's not like I'm ever going to have an impact on you.



    For you to insinuate that my methods don't produce effective results, or that they make me a lazy or naive parent just goes to show your own ignorance.

    LOL, I'm not insinuating, I'm flat out stating. And it's not just me, it's a bunch of research and psychologists with decades of experience.

    Not to mention the fact that if "results" are your only objective with out considering the means, yes, you are incredibly short-sighted, lazy and naive. But that's just like, my opinion, maaaaan.

    Cheers.

  • Acolyyte

    MoonshineGFT truly doesn't fucking get it.

    He thinks that hitting kids is okay. If I walked up to him and knocked his ass out, he'd call the police (and rightly so!)

    However, the smallest, most dependent people in our society who can't defend themselves? Fuck em! Beat the shit out of em!

    He is among the legion lazy assholes who think that they know better than every childhood psychologist and study that has ever been done.

    Violence is the bastion of the unintelligent and unimaginative. They run back to it because they can't control their base instincts, they don't want to take a moment to actually consider if the ideas they've been indoctrinated into might be wrong.

    Probably a Trump supporter too.

    This is why parenthood should come with an entrance exam.

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